We got a notice in the mail yesterday that DS#2 has overdrawn his checking account for the 2nd time in 2 weeks. DH wants the account closed out immediately since my name is also on it. Needless to say, I am not too happy about it, either, but I don't know if closing it out is the correct thing to do.
DS#2 will be 18 next month. I don't know if he can have a checking account by himself before then or if he needs an adult to be on it. He needs to learn to handle his money, but I don't want it to be at my expense either. He has always been the type of kid that flies by the seat of his pants and just goes with the flow. A good thing for all the troubles he's had, but bad financially.
And it's not that he doesn't have the money...he just forgets to deposit his paychecks!
The only thing that he really uses the account for is the automatic withdrawals that the car insurance company makes every month. He pays cash for everything else, except the one check he wrote a few weeks ago and forgot to write down!
My first thought is to make him take the paycheck he just got yesterday and make the account current and then have him give me his paycheck every week and let me take care of it, but that's not teaching him anything. He'll be moving out in June and needs to know how to do things.
Ack!!! Kids!!!
February 1st, 2008 at 02:49 pm 1201877386
February 1st, 2008 at 03:53 pm 1201881219
I agree with your husband about closing the account. One time OK, but not 2 times in 2 weeks. I know as a mother that it is hard to do this, but he has to learn.
I automaically thought about the envelope system as well. Maybe a little inconvenience will help him. Kids should have to prove that they can handle an account. It's not fair to you if you lose your own good name.
February 1st, 2008 at 04:00 pm 1201881651
He just left to go close the account and use the paycheck he got yesterday to make up the difference. He will go to a cash only system until he's 18 and ready to do this on his own.
You're right, as a mom it is hard to do this but he is definitely the type that has to learn the hard way. It's difficult to watch.
February 1st, 2008 at 04:06 pm 1201881987
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February 1st, 2008 at 07:57 pm 1201895864
February 2nd, 2008 at 03:43 am 1201923831
If you get on that list you can't open a new checking account for five years. You get on the list if the bank closes a checking account with your name on it for "cause". Overdrawing too many times, no matter the amount of the overdraft could be cause if the bank felt like it. Paying back the money won't make the mark go away. As I said, it's a flag. Also, if you are the custodian then you could get in ChexSystem too since your name is on the account. It's actually easier to get credit after a bankruptcy than a checking account after getting put into ChexSystems.
I had a friend who was incorrectly reported to ChexSystem. The bank that made the mistake even fessed up and offered to confirm to anyone who asked, but it didn't matter. No one would give him a checking account because he appeared on the list and was considered too big a risk. The only one who would take him was the bank that messed him over to begin with. Scary stuff. Not something to mess around with.
Good luck with it...
February 2nd, 2008 at 01:40 pm 1201959643
He really doesn't mean to do all this. He just forgets. I sometimes wonder if it's a result of his birth (he was oxygen deprived) and seizures. He is our smartest child as far as IQ goes. He's in the gifted program at school, but is terribly forgetful. Always has been.
Right now he's operating on a cash only basis and I'm keeping the money for him since he's afraid of being mugged again. He'll be 18 in a month and a half, then he can do what he wants without me having to be on the account.
February 3rd, 2008 at 03:07 am 1202008062
August 21st, 2008 at 10:46 am 1219315568
I think we should encourage them to start by opening up simple bank account packages from a young age, even if to only manage pocket money etc.
I don't know about the states but in the UK there are plenty of free online saving account packages to choose from providers including but not exclusive to Barclays, Lloyds and many more.